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RoXanne

Same-sex couples and children?
« on: November 01, 2012, 00:20:31 »
Before posting my own point of view (which can be predicted if you know a bit about me), I will simply ask; what is your stance on same-sex couples having children from a sperm donor/adopting children?

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Aaron

Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #1 on: November 01, 2012, 00:30:12 »
As long as the parents are responsible and love their kids, I see no problem whatsoever except from the stereotypical "Wtf" there's 100% nothing wrong with it. Although, you have to think that with todays society do you want your kids to be put through the hell of bullying from other dense children.

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Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #2 on: November 01, 2012, 00:49:08 »
Bullying happens all the time unfortunately, they wouldn't have to know your parents are gay. Its no different then a man and woman having children imo.

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Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #3 on: November 01, 2012, 01:00:05 »
I am completely for same-sex couples having children, to put it frankly.

Also, about the possibility of children being bullied: I agree with what Amy said. Also, being homosexual is becoming a lot more socially acceptable in Schools and the workplace. I know of many people who are coming clean about their sexuality and are receiving nothing but support from fellow students. Just 10 years ago you would've been maliciously bullied by many for this. I can see having homosexual parents becoming more socially acceptable soon as well, if not already. Being open minded is a positive thing which more and more people are becoming.

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Offline Greg

Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #4 on: November 01, 2012, 01:29:29 »
In my view..

For two girls, not that weird at all. For two guys, a tad weird. I remember the saying, mother's knows best. As long as they love the child, thats all that matters.

I think it would be a different upbringing, as having two fathers, or two mothers will be pretty confusing. I mean, two fathers, who is the actual father, and who is then your biological mother? It can lead to all kinds of questions.

It is a tough subject, if the child is loved, the child is in a good home. However, when the child grows up, he/she asks questions and can lead to many problems in my opinion.

Ah well, thats my view.


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« Reply #5 on: November 01, 2012, 01:33:10 »
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However, when the child grows up, he/she asks questions and can lead to many problems in my opinion.

They would ask questions around the ages 8-9 and at that age they still learn. If from that young age they are told (not in depth) that their parents are a couple, it would help them understand such things in the future. It shouldn't lead to problems if being homosexual is natural. The child would grow up simply thinking its normal and therefore have no issues with it.


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Offline Greg

Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #6 on: November 01, 2012, 01:36:18 »
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However, when the child grows up, he/she asks questions and can lead to many problems in my opinion.

They would ask questions around the ages 8-9 and at that age they still learn. If from that young age they are told (not in depth) that their parents are a couple, it would help them understand such things in the future. It shouldn't lead to problems if being homosexual is natural. The child would grow up simply thinking its normal and therefore have no issues with it.

Wasn't referring to questions regarding homosexuality.

More about their biological parents. The case in the relationship, only one (or maybe neither) may be the biological parent. Every child would like to know the story behind their 'real' parents, and it is something that will always be asked when they grow up/


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Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #7 on: November 01, 2012, 01:37:24 »
I'm all for same sex marriages. I'm all for it. 100%.

If the parents are responsible and loving, I see no problem with them having children.

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Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #8 on: November 01, 2012, 01:39:15 »
Children would still ask, if they had straight parents who weren't related to them biologically. However, if you're in care you are told about your biological parents, unless of course you are a baby at the time.. but they tell you at a young age everything, it would be cruel otherwise ;c

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Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #9 on: November 01, 2012, 01:43:39 »
Children would still ask, if they had straight parents who weren't related to them biologically. However, if you're in care you are told about your biological parents, unless of course you are a baby at the time.. but they tell you at a young age everything, it would be cruel otherwise ;c

Of course.

Also, I wonder if the childs social behaviour would be affected. For a bully, say for example if you had two fathers, the child would be a target for many bullies. I know it can be a case for any child, but for children around the same age as the child, they won't understand it and it may be a case until the child is an adult. If the child is in a bullying loop, since he is a prime target, it may lead to difficult situations.

I need to stop thinking. Sleepy time.


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Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #10 on: November 01, 2012, 01:50:42 »
Very true, but other children wouldn't need to know the child has gay parents ;o

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Offline Tommykillme

Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #11 on: November 01, 2012, 12:52:18 »
I strangely disagree with same sex couples having children. I personally would never have a child with my male partner because I believe a child would need both a mother and father figure. I'm not downgrading single parenthood or anything. But I would want my child to have the option to have the comfort and advice from two different sexes.

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Bendr

Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #12 on: November 01, 2012, 12:55:27 »
In my opinion, I also disagree with same sex couples having children.
I couldn't bear the 'bullying' that the child will have to go through if others knew about this

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Offline Emma

Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #13 on: November 01, 2012, 13:05:38 »
my mate grew up with two dads because her dad came out when she was a baby and her mum left. She wasn't bullied at all all the way through school, hehe if anything she helped me out when things were tough for me.

Sometimes kids understand these things better than adults, you don't say no to something because someone might be bullied. Surely you support and continue to educate kids that bullying in any form is wrong.



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Bendr

Re: Same-sex couples and children?
« Reply #14 on: November 01, 2012, 13:15:26 »
my mate grew up with two dads because her dad came out when she was a baby and her mum left. She wasn't bullied at all all the way through school, hehe if anything she helped me out when things were tough for me.

Sometimes kids understand these things better than adults, you don't say no to something because someone might be bullied. Surely you support and continue to educate kids that bullying in any form is wrong.

That's actually a valid point, kind of persuaded me a tad, but if I were in a situation like this, I'd just want what is best for the child

 

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